You can use this tool to explore everything that your coachee wants to do, be or have. This will assist them to set short, medium and long-term goals. As a coach you can guide them through this exercise or offer it to them as an assignment prior to your first coaching session. The instructions below are given in a way that you will need to use for your coachee.
Your degree of proactivity can be assessed by realising how where you focus most of your energy, in the Circle of Concern, with all those things you can do nothing about. Or focus your energy, meaning acting upon those things you can have control over or influence in any way. Proactive people focus their efforts in the Circle of Influence. They work on the things they can do something about. The nature of their energy is positive, enlarging and magnifying, causing their Circle of Influence to increase.
People who lack confidence may attribute it to the build-up of past negative experiences in life and find their inner voice constantly criticising, punishing and belittling every task or accomplishment they attempt.
Whereas people with healthy confidence have an inner voice that conveys positive and reassuring messages, even when things go wrong. These people choose to learn from their mistakes and use them to grow. Someone with low confidence may use the failures to beat themselves up with.
To move forward, the client with low self-esteem or confidence needs to believe that he or she can change it. As coaches, we do a wonderful job supporting our clients’ belief that they can change. We, and they, may be aware that change doesn’t always happen quickly or easily, but armed with the tools and strategies that coaching provides, the desire to change through taking consistent and regular action, a client can start to transform their beliefs about themselves.
This tool involves answering three questions from the perspective of the other person. These questions address three fundamental perspectives of being human - thinking, feeling, and intention. Using the first person, put yourself in the others’ place and ask:
- What am I thinking?
- What am I feeling?
- What am I wanting?
Asking these questions allows you to see a situation through another person’s eyes and to access your empathy. It also gives you a greater range of choices about how you communicate with that person.
This tool allows you to identify 6 key areas of your life and brainstorm a number of issues or key areas in your life that are important for you.
Our guest coach, James Fearn introducing the Kübler-Ross Change Curve to us. Change Curve can be offered to a coachee with an invitation to reflect on where they are now within the change they experience, what they feel, and what can be done to move forward within this change.
We are grateful to James for bringing this model! If you want to connect to James on LinkedIn, here is his profile: https://www.linkedin.com/in/james-fearn-801ba22/